Parent-child fights are a normal part of life in a family. It's an inevitable part of growing up when kids learn to stand on their own and parents have to deal with the fact that their babies are no longer babies. So you, as a parent needs to learn to listen and compromise with your daughters.
Even though there will always be disagreement, it doesn't have to be harmful or destructive. Parents can help their daughters work out their differences in a way that helps both sides understand and accept each other.
Here are five ways to teach your two daughters how to listen and find a middle ground so it will create effective communication between girls and you.
1. Let her ask for what she wants
To find a solution to a problem that works for both sides, you have to learn to listen to what your peers have to say. HuffPost says that if you want to find a middle ground with your two daughters, you should both listen to what the other has to say, improve their listening skills kids and avoid making snap decisions.
2. Let her feel heard
Parents often report that their children become more rational after they have had the chance to express themselves. While your two daughters tell you about her requests, try to keep an open mind and avoid saying things like "No, we can't do that" or "That makes no sense," even if you don't agree with what he's saying.
3. Give her request a lot of thought
Even though it can be tempting to answer your two daughters' requests quickly, which can lead to more arguing and bargaining, it can be helpful to take some time to think about what to say, no matter how small the problem is. But don't take too long to answer. If you tell him you'll answer in a few minutes, answer him in a few minutes to show how important his request is to you.
4. Let her help you make choices
Empowering Parents says there's nothing wrong with talking about certain requests or situations with your two daughters. Use this time to discuss the benefits and cons of those scenarios with him so that you can eventually reach a compromise that pleases both you and your daughters and it will be good for your daughters for their compromising with siblings.
5. Set a good example
Lastly, it's important to be a good example of how to deal with differences and fights. This includes setting a good example for your children by accepting responsibility for your actions and resolving arguments calmly and courteously.
It also entails being receptive to feedback, learning from your mistakes, and continuously seeking to do better.
Final Thoughts
As a parent, it will be hard to solve problems between your daughters, but it is also very important to do so. To do this well, you need to be flexible when you can, set limits and boundaries, make a safe space for open discussion, and be a good example.
You can try some of the above suggestions to learn how to listen to and work with your two daughters, or you can read parenting books like "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series)" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, which you can get on Amazon.
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