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How To Help Your Girls Find Their Own Identities Without Comparing Each Other

Updated: Oct 10, 2023



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Hi readers, how are you?


Maybe many of our readers are moms who are currently confused about how to educate their girls, especially if you have more than one girl.


Well, we are here to present reviews for you moms who are confused about how to help your girls find their own identities without comparing each other properly and correctly.

Being a parent is not an easy thing. They have great responsibilities and one of them is in educating their girls.


Girls have different characteristics, so it is not uncommon for parents to find it difficult to educate and direct their girls.


Not only that, the girls often feel that their parents show favoritism towards their siblings. So how to educate girls properly so that they do not feel favoritism?


It may not be a problem when you only have one girl, but what if you have more than one? Of course, you have to have extra energy in educating and raising them. Moreover, each child has a different character, so as a parent, you should be as neutral as possible to avoid jealousy among your girls.


How To Help Your Girls Find Their Own Identities Without Comparing Each Other



Treat Them the Same


One of the triggers that can cause your girls to think that their parents show favoritism towards them and their siblings is your different treatment.


Therefore, try to always treat your girls the same way. For example, when one of your girls is doing something wrong, you should reprimand her and do the same to your other girls.



Never Compare Your Girls


As a parent, you often forget and don't realize that you are comparing your daughters. This does not only happen to parents but to everyone who likes to compare things to see who and what is better to do.


However, when you are a parent, try to minimize this behavior, especially doing it openly. When you compare which one is the best among them, then your daughter who is the underdog will feel ostracized and her confidence level will decrease.



Don't Favor One of Your Girls


Favoring one of the girls has become a parental habit. Unfortunately, it's not a good habit to keep, as it can foster jealousy in your other girls. The girl who is not favored will think that she is not loved and treated fairly by her parents.



Teach Them to Cooperate with Each Other


Girls need to work together, right? From an early age, you should teach your girls to work together, whether it's cleaning the house, studying, or dealing with problems.


If you look around your neighborhood, you will find some families who blame each other and don't get along. Why? Because of the lack of cooperation within the family. By working together, you will foster a sense of solidarity in your girls.



Instill Love and Care for Your Girls in Their Siblings


Love and affection are the strongest foundations for a relationship, and so is the relationship between parents and their children, as well as the relationship between your girls. With love and care, your girls will avoid the mutual hatred and hurt that may occur in years to come.



Cultivate Mutual Respect in Your Girls

In addition to love, affection, and care, your girls should also be taught to respect each other from an early age. Respect is one of the strongest components to move forward, for example in the world of work, if someone tends to be disrespectful and disrespectful to others, then that person will most likely not be accepted.



Teach Them to Always Be Open with Their Parents


The last thing you can do is teach your girls to always be open to their parents. If they are closed and do not want to share their grievances, how can parents understand and find solutions to these problems?


Therefore, it is important that you teach your girls to be open with you. That way you can understand what is happening to your girls.



Apart from the seven ways above, one thing you should know is to act like friends, relatives, and companions. That way, you will become closer and understand what your girls really want.




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